Bringing sweet sexy back.
Have you ever been in a situation where someone asks you your favorite book, movie, song, or whatever and you just freeze? You stop. Your jaw works as your teeth grind unconsciously. Your eyes glaze over as you stare off into space and not because you haven’t got an answer but because you have too many? Yeah, I’m the same way.
Although I have noticed a common thread between all of my favorites—books, films, music, places, people—they all make me feel that buzz of anticipation, that flush of hope, excitement, love, that innocent uplifting where you feel special.
Like it was made just for you.
I remember that feeling from my youth (if anyone asks I am 21 forever), but I lost it somewhere amidst the day job and the failed relationships, the stalker, the family break ups, the bills…it just left me. You know what I am talking about, right? The sweet amidst the sexy? The butterflies in your tummy feeling as you slowly fall in love? That.
I started writing for publication only in the last three years. My first published pieces were erotic short stories that I submitted to anthologies. They were a real test for me. Could I write about sex? Could I tell a story in so few words? How would I hide this from my family who might not understand? How do I engage an audience? These questions face most authors when they write, no matter the genre. It transpired I could and did. To date, I have seven short stories across six anthologies and another due for release at the end of the year.
But then came a new question: Was I perpetuating the problem?
My shorts told a story, usually a love story, but they were also about the sex. Most of the books I see in my newsfeed are the same: Sex. Alpha males. Desperate women. Broken hearts. Taming the beast. Tragedy. More Alpha males. Hot sex. Dirty Sex. Revenge Sex….
Where is all the sweet love? And not the chocolate box kind. I don’t do twee. Where is all the sexy sweet?
So I went hunting and found lots of great examples of traditional sexy sweet. The most prevalent at the moment include the following set up: Bad boy meets girl, fears he isn’t good enough for girl, tries to push her away but comes to realize he can’t live without her and they live happily ever whatever. Great. I love those, as my kindle will attest to.
But what about kink? What about the naughtier side? Mention BDSM and you get two main reactions: “OMG I loved FSOG” or “BDSM?” Cue the holy books, rashes, and hives.
Don’t kinky people deserve butterflies too?
The world isn’t black and white…or indeterminate shades of gray, it’s full living color. It is bright and beautiful and magical. So I try to write that way. I want to include the facets of humanity that are real. Do we get nervous before a first kiss? Yes. Do the butterflies attack when he looks at her in that way that says I can’t wait to get you home? Yes. Does it always have to end in sex or a spanked bottom or delayed sexual gratification? No, because there is so much more to attraction, there is so much more to people and relationships.
My Tienimi Series aims to achieve this. From clean, sweet heat to naughty sweet sexy, you can be sure I explore it all. The most recent book of the series, Rubies and Silk, is a prime example of this. Milly is a Domme. Do I write about her parading her subs around on a leash? Nope. Does she wear leather or latex and whip her partners on an X-frame? Nope (not in this tale anyway). The book, in fact, explores Milly’s relationships and sexual appetite beyond the playroom. It is sultry, seductive and full of butterflies.
So here’s a challenge from me to you: Visit me and tell me your favorite sweet sexy book or author. Who do you read that delivers the goods?
Let’s bring sweet sexy back.
x Aurelia x
Author of the Tienimi Club series, Aurelia Fray is the naughty Hyde side of a rather ordinary woman. Whenever her mistress lets her out to play, there are sure to be tales worth telling. She lives in London, England and loves the age-old city. She loves the bustle and the narrow streets, the crazy pigeons and the history. Aurelia is a fan of rain, dewy grass music, painting, and finding pretty things to photograph.
With a degree in English literature and a love of all things wordy it is no real surprise she adores penning salacious stories. She has won various short story and poetry competitions and suspects that her foray into erotic & romantic literature will be a titillating adventure for author and readers alike.
Q. Where are you from? Does the area you live in influence you writing?
I am a London girl. Yes, the Tower, bridge, beefeaters, Queen, Buckingham Palace, Queen Elizabeth Tower, kind of London. Growing up in a bustling city probably has more of an influence on my writing than I give it credit for. Many of my female characters reflect the growing high-power career women of the city and many more characters originate from here even if they are based elsewhere.
I love the way the old and the new exist side by side in a city that evolves and yet still maintains its history.
Q. Tell us your latest news??
In the last couple of weeks I have had the pleasure of releasing book four of my Tienimi Series, Rubies and Silk. It has to be my favorite book of the series yet and the readers are already starting to say they feel the same but what really excites me is that the final book in the series is set to release in just over a month.
Diamonds and Pearls is going to be the naughtiest, funniest and was most difficult book of the series to write.
And the reason? I love Daryl and Cameron Blake and when you fall for your characters there is a pressure to do them justice.
Q. When and why did you begin writing? What inspired you to write your first book?
I started writing at a very young age. (How many times have you heard that before?) In my case I was two and my mother bought me a little cherry-red typewriter that I would tap away at. I penned letters to my grandmother and would shout out to my mum whenever I needed a word spelled out. I was a quick learner and a precocious little girl. My first real story I wrote in the middle of my English lessons at school. I tended to complete the set tasks quickly and would spend most of the time jotting down my version of a YA horror. Like most writers I was inspired by the nonsense of school life and the people around me. It was a 200-page hand-written beast and I burned it in a fit of rage. These days I tend to archive the stories that irritate me instead.
Q. What book(s) / author(s) have influenced your life and writing?
I was a bookaholic…one that never fully recovered from my need to read. I’ve read everything from classical fiction to the old pulp reads. My favorites range from Jane Austen to Penelope Douglas. I have a soft-spot for William Shakespeare’s The Taming of the Shrew and was totally blown away by Steven King’s The Dark Tower series. Ted Hughes, Margaret Atwood, Angela Carter, T.S Elliot and so many more have influenced me and yet I feel as though my own writing retains little of their influence…my characters narrate their lives to me and not the other way around.
Q. Tell us about your characters and how they came to be? Have they been in your head for a long time?
The Tienimi Series began when Jane McGrath woke me up from my sleep and whispered into my ear. Her story came in one sitting…one long sitting. Pretty soon after I finished the first book the others all started talking at once and before I knew it, I had drafts for five books. But I also have dozens of drafts for future projects. Some of these come at me the same way and sometimes I just type the first line and see where the story takes me. Whichever the method it all feels like a very surreal process.
Q. What motivates you to write?
I love to tell stories. I love to spin a tale that absorbs someone’s heart, mind, attention for a little bit of their day and leaves them with a smile. Plus, if I didn’t write I think my head would burst from all the scenarios that run through it.
Q. What is the hardest part of writing?
Writing is a pleasure, editing is a necessity and getting precious over your book is pointless because it means you haven’t distanced yourself enough to appreciate your readers’ needs. Yet I think the hardest part of writing for me is the lack of confidence. You write a story and feel great about it. Then you read over it and find all the holes, mistakes and things that are lacking. So you fix them. But you never really lose that lack of confidence. You always question whether your readers will love it as much as you, whether you did your character’s justice, whether you built your world with enough realism to capture the mind of your reader. And no, you can’t please everyone all of the time but those nerves you feel can consume you if you let them.
Q. Did you learn anything from writing your book and what was it?
Hmmmm. I took a few things out of the experience that I never realized before. Firstly, that I enjoyed working with an editor despite being a control freak. Secondly, that deadlines are great writing fuel and thirdly, that I am an old romantic at heart…Who knew?
Q. Where do you get your ideas?
Like lots of writers, ideas tend to find you in many ways. Dreams, articles, daily life, hopes, strange conversations with friends are all ways that stories have come to me over the years. Some people write the ideal future, some people write about what they lack in their own lives, some write as a form of therapy and me? I write to stay sane. There will always be a point of pain, a character flaw that needs fixed or addressed in some way so perhaps I get my ideas from wanting to heal people?
Q. What does your family think of your writing?
I had expected a bad reception from my family. I kept a lot of my writing private for that reason so it was a nice surprise when I found out that many of them had gone out and bought the books without telling me. It is always a great experience when someone you know and love tells you to get your butt in gear because they need your next book.
Q. What is the best advice you would give to inspiring authors?
Do it. Write and then put it away for a little while. I can guarantee you will reread it and find a thousand and one things to fix. If you don’t you are either some kind of prodigy or you are lying to yourself. As soon as you realize that you can improve it, that is when you are ready to take it further. Too many writers start out hopeful and then get precious about their work when it gets rejected or an editor makes you cut half of the story/rewrite an end/change tense/character names etc. The minute you are able to take constructive criticism and accept that not everyone is going to think your book is a work of genius, that is when you will be most ready to make your writing a success.
Q. What book(s) are you reading now?
I am reading Sarah Jayne Carr’s Jackrabbit7 series. It was a recent find and has totally captured my attention. I have fallen in love with the characters and am heartily anticipating the next release!
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